becomingtheself, Author at Becoming the Self

People pleasing behavior: The subtle ways it shows up in life

If you’ve ever felt that quiet tension between what you truly want and what you think you should do, you […]

There’s often a quiet moment in childhood when we make an unconscious decision that being ourselves isn’t entirely safe. Maybe

It can be unsettling to realize that your kindness—the part of you that says “yes” even when you want to

Do you often say “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you find yourself bending over backward to

Abandonment wounds can feel like invisible scars shaping how we love, trust, and even see ourselves. They often show up

If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over why one date felt effortless while another left you spiraling in self-doubt, you’re

When people first learn about attachment theory, the main focus tends to lie on improving their romantic relationships. However, our

When we hear the term “secure attachment,” we often associate it with early childhood experiences. It’s true that our primary

Jealousy can feel like a storm brewing within us, often catching us off guard and leaving us questioning its origins.

Healing your attachment style is not about becoming perfect; it’s about becoming more aware, grounded, and compassionate with yourself and