becomingtheself, Author at Becoming the Self

ADHD and people pleasing: why is the pattern so common?

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation replaying everything you said, or felt a familiar guilt after setting even […]

If you’ve spent years saying “yes” when you wanted to say “no”, feeling guilty for having needs, or worrying that

When you first realize you’re a people pleaser, it can feel like falling into a maze with no map. You’re

If you’ve ever felt that quiet tension between what you truly want and what you think you should do, you

There’s often a quiet moment in childhood when we make an unconscious decision that being ourselves isn’t entirely safe. Maybe

It can be unsettling to realize that your kindness—the part of you that says “yes” even when you want to

Do you often say “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you find yourself bending over backward to

Abandonment wounds can feel like invisible scars shaping how we love, trust, and even see ourselves. They often show up

If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over why one date felt effortless while another left you spiraling in self-doubt, you’re

When people first learn about attachment theory, the main focus tends to lie on improving their romantic relationships. However, our