About Me

Who’s behind Becoming The Self? A little bit about me

Hi! Welcome to the “About Me” section. I’m Mai, and Becoming The Self is the most personal project I’ve ever shared.

This space was born from years of searching, healing, breaking, rebuilding… and learning, slowly and imperfectly, to come home to my true self. For most of my adult life, I felt stuck in painful relationship patterns, caught in cycles of people-pleasing, codependency, and confusion.

Therapy helped me name what was happening. Spirituality helped me hold it. And little by little, I began to meet the parts of me that had been carrying it all.

My healing began in 2017, when I reached a point I couldn’t push through alone anymore. Since then, I’ve explored everything from attachment theory to EMDR, inner child work, neurofeedback, holistic psychiatry, and various spiritual practices. Some things helped. Others didn’t. None of it has been linear, but all of it has taught me something.

Becoming The Self isn’t about having it all figured out. I’m still very much on this path. This space isn’t for quick fixes or perfect answers — it’s for truth, tenderness, and the messy, ongoing work of becoming who we really are.

Whether you’re just starting therapy, noticing a pattern that keeps repeating, or trying to piece together your sense of self after a painful chapter… I’m so glad you’re here. We’re walking this together.

With affection,
Maider

This vs. That

Get to know me a little better. Here are a few of my favorite things (and some that are not).